how personal development helped improve my confidence

How Personal Development Helped My Self-Esteem and Confidence

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of self-doubt and insecurity, constantly second-guessing yourself and your abilities? I know that feeling all too well. However, through my personal development journey, I discovered its transformative power in boosting confidence and self-esteem. It was like unlocking a hidden treasure chest within myself, filled with tools and strategies to navigate life with newfound assurance and belief in my own worth.

After spending all week writing about how to boost your self-esteem and the 10 steps to embark on a personal development journey, I started thinking about my own experiences. So today, I thought I'd share how personal development helped my self-esteem and confidence.

On a personal level, my personal growth skyrocketed when I ditched everything “normal” and embarked on a new journey, teaming up with an incredible group of women focused on professional and personal development.

I am blessed to have 5 incredible individuals team up with me who value personal development and take the time to mentor others seeking to develop themselves, too. The personal growth I am experiencing through mentoring them through their growth journey has been intense and exciting. I'm so impressed and proud to watch my teachings and guidance passed down to others as I lead by example. Watching the few individuals I mentor starting their journey to becoming mentors as well, in addition to watching their lifestyle changes, brings all of us substantially more joy, health, abundance, and wealth.

Nothing is quite as satisfying as the feeling that comes from helping other women achieve their goals, especially when those goals enable them to live healthier, live happier, and increase their financial well-being in a healthy manner – and then watch them bless others and go through the same goals.

Doing this also helps boost my self-esteem and confidence as a leader because of how amazing it feels to genuinely care for and help build up other people without expecting anything in return. Plus, you're reaching your own goals by helping others. So as you help others grow, you are also growing and feeling good about it, which improves your confidence.

The positive mental state and the change in how I think because of my own personal growth journey is nothing short of incredible. I'm in awe of what life is like now that I have my “village” of like-minded people who think, have compassion, and are empathetic.

We have our own community (largely online) full of women building each other up, which I feel is absolutely essential in a society prolific with women tearing each other down.

But here, in our growth-minded community…

  • I feel fulfilled.
  • I feel happy.
  • I feel proud of the women who study with me and use that knowledge to teach others.

I truly believe knowledge not shared is wasted, so it feels good to contribute and support those who need it the most, and watch them carry on the legacy, changing lives and leaving the world a better place, one family at a time.

In order for us all to succeed, you need to build up others, and you need to be in an environment where other people reciprocate by encouraging you, too. We need to encourage each other and provide support as originally designed.

We need to collaborate and help each other reach goals.

We need more selflessness in a world full of selfish people idolizing those with loose morals.

We need to stop comparing ourselves to the “highlight reel” of other people.

We need to see our capabilities, not what society's critically unrealistic standards make us feel we need to be.

When you start building up other women instead of tearing each other down and stepping on toes to get ahead, your life completely changes.

  • You stop seeing yourself in a negative light.
  • You forgive yourself for your shortcomings.
  • You strive to develop yourself into who you truly are.
  • You strive for those opportunities that wouldn't otherwise be afforded to you.
  • You start loving yourself for who you are because you're reaching out and expanding your potential.
  • Life becomes enjoyable again.
  • You start seeing good in the world again.
  • You start seeing good in yourself.

While I always dreamed of living in a world based on mentorship, I've experienced more people try to break my spirit and hold me back than people willing to either boost me up or stand back out of the way to let me thrive. Embarking on growing myself enabled me to overcome a lot of the angst I experienced while my job in the military limited me. I know all too well what it's like to be submerged in so much structure that there isn't room to grow when you're ready, and the mental and emotional angst that comes with it. If you're stuck in a similar situation, there are still ways you can grow yourself outside of that environment, which will help you thrive and still provide opportunities.

Start by reading books like The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth: Live Them and Reach Your Potential.

Seek mentorship from someone in a position you dream of being in.

Look for volunteer opportunities or start a home-based business with a team that emphasizes personal development.

Or turn a hobby into a business you can work on from home (here are a few great ideas that even homeschooling parents can do).

Anything that allows you to measure your progress and success and enables you to have a growth outlet outside of your current employment is a good idea.

We, as people, are meant to serve.

We need camaraderie.

We need teamwork.

We need personal and professional growth to be successful.

We need accountability partners.

We need encouragement and acceptance.

When those social needs are fulfilled, opportunities arise that you wouldn't ordinarily notice or have a chance at. Personal development is pivotal because it stretches who you are and enables you to handle new situations and opportunities that come with them. Personal development makes you noticeable, standing out in a crowd of people content to take the easy way and stay where they are.

Because of all this, my situation has turned from being stuck without the ability to advance professionally on my timeline to a situation where I was stuck in a rut dealing with a disability I couldn't force myself to overcome or deny out of existence to being in a thriving situation where that disability no longer hinders me in any way. I went from relying on others to determine my success to taking the reins and forging my success – and succeeding with it.

My personal growth has enabled me to grow my home-based business by 140% in the past month. So not only am I seeing direct results in how I view myself and the world around me, enhancing relationships with those close to me and enhancing my ability to communicate with others, but I'm also seeing professional improvement at the same time.

There isn't an aspect of my life that personal development hasn't had a positive impact on.

  • My marriage feels stronger.
  • I feel more competent as a mom.
  • I feel more confident as a teacher.
  • I feel more comfortable as a writer.
  • I feel a closer connection to my friends.
  • I'm developing friendships with women I wouldn't have met without my business and personal development journey.

I know you can have similar results, too, especially after personally watching numerous women in our business support group and book club groups go through the same process and see the same results.

Have you started on your personal development journey? If not, what is stopping you?

If you need help, I'd love to introduce you to the same system and support team I am benefitting from and see if it is a good fit for you. Let me know if you'd like a 24-hour sneak peak too!

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Author: Nicole Graber

Title: Writer, Editor, Wellness Consultant, Business Strategist

Expertise: Natural Wellness, Healthy Lifestyle, Home Business Strategy, Motherhood


Nicole is a writer, healthy lifestyle consultant, and faith-based business strategist at Gracefully Abundant, with bylines on MSN and the AP newswire. As a survivor of homelessness and chronic health issues, she discovered a purpose in guiding people toward a healthier lifestyle and increased income.

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